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When It’s More than Writer’s Block

Writing While Mentally Ill


As a writer have you ever gone back and reread an old work and thought, ‘Wow, who hurt you?’

The last few months I’ve been working on writing the sequel to one of the first books I ever wrote and published. It’s been proving to be exceptionally difficult. There are no less than five different versions sitting in my hard drive. And this latest attempt is yet another rewrite. Yet again, the story seems to be fighting me at every turn. I knew going in that the main character is mentally draining to write. But that hasn’t felt like it’s been the case recently. It’s felt deeper than that.

After a convo with my sprint partner a couple of weeks ago, I did some thinking and came to a realization. 

(Trigger warning for discussion of suicidal ideation, depression and suicide attempt.)

Where it Began

When I first started writing this book, I was a new mom and on strict bed rest due to nearly dying during delivery. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was suffering from rather severe postpartum depression. In order to deal with my emotional turmoil, I began writing. I created a character who I could put through all the torment I felt I deserved. This poor boy was aptly named Sorrow. He became my vessel for all of my insecurities and trauma I’d endured growing up. It helped for a time.

When my middle child was almost two, I attempted to commit suicide at work. This led to a hospitalization and finally a diagnosis. But it would be another five years before we found a mix of medications that help keep me balanced mentally. I’ve been through therapy. I had a relapse and went back into the hospital for a short time. My lovely psychiatrist helped me learn coping mechanisms. I still have bad days, but I no longer sit and daydream about dying or about how much better off everyone would be if I was gone. I’ve continued to write. I still love tormenting characters, but not to the degree I did to Sorrow.

So when I realized last week the reason this story is fighting me so hard, it was a surprise but also a relief of sorts. 

I can no longer write Sorrow the way I did. I no longer want to hurt myself and by extension him. I deserved better and so does he. In light of that, I’ve decided to take the sequel in a totally different direction than I’d originally intended.  I won’t spoil it here for you. ^_~

Staying Sane as a Mentally Ill Writer

Writing is mentally taxing, no matter who you are or what you write. At some point or other, nearly every writer deals with the dreaded writer’s block. That seemingly insurmountable hurdle to keep putting words down on the page. And every writer has their own way of dealing with it. However, for a writer who is neurodivergent (I use this term as I feel it is more inclusive and has a less negative connotation than the phrase mentally ill) it can be especially frustrating.

For me, anxiety and depression can combine to create a perfect storm of feeling both upset I can’t get anything down, that I’m disappointing my readers, and conversely, feeling like it wouldn’t matter anyway as I’m nothing but a fraud trying to trick people out of their hard earned money. 

Ouch.

That’s not true. Of course it isn’t true. But my serotonin starved brain likes to insist otherwise. This is when I have to be especially gentle with myself.  Following are a few things that I’ve found help me when I’m in a slump and ways I’m working to avoid them in the first place.

My biggest piece of advice is this: pain and/or suffering doesn’t not make a person more creative or a better artist. The whole concept of the tortured artist needs to die a fiery death. Health doesn’t define who you are and it shouldn’t define you as an artist either. If you are struggling, get help. I became a much better person and writer once I got help and learned to harness those demons instead of letting them run rampant.

Being neurodivergent doesn’t automatically make my writing deeper or more relevant than a neurotypical author’s work. In some ways, it can be less relatable to the average reader because of my perspective.

Here are six ways I’ve been trying to help myself:

  1. Seek Professional Help

    My first piece of advice is to get help. If you are struggling with symptoms that make day-to-day living a challenge, please talk to your doctor. I will also list various resources for you at the end of this article. The Suicide Prevention Hotline literally saved my life. 

    1. Practice Mindfulness

    Try to stay self aware. If something you’re working on is making your symptoms worse, it might be time to pull back and think about why this is the case. This is especially true if you’re writing about a neurodivergent character. As the article Tips for Writing With and About Mental Illness states: “Suddenly, you’ve stopped arguing with mental illness, and you’ve started collaborating with it.Writing about mental illness can sometimes become a conduit for mental illness” (Wortmann, F. (2021, September 10). Tips for writing with and about mental illness. Psychology Today. Retrieved October 13, 2024, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/triggered/202109/tips-for-writing-with-and-about-mental-illness).

    1. You are More than Your Illness

    Just as you are not solely your illness, neither is your character. While at times it can feel all consuming, it is only one part of our whole selves. And not everyone will have the ability to understand our character any more than they can understand our experiences. Some things simply have to be experienced to be understood. 

    1. Take Breaks

    If your current work is making your symptoms worse, don’t be afraid to put it down and walk away for a bit. Work on something different. This is why I like to have several projects going at once. It gives my brain a break from writing emotionally challenging characters to write something lighter. Or I refill my creative well by reading, watching movies or gaming. It is all part of the process and don’t let anyone tell you different.

    1. Try New Things

    If writing has become truly challenging, it might be time to try a new creative outlet for a while. Allow yourself to explore other mediums. This can also relate to #4 in that it gives your brain a new challenge and can actually help you when you get back to your writing.

    1. Don’t Isolate

    We tend to withdraw when we’re struggling. This is the last thing we should be doing. This is when we most need to reach out to others. Even if it’s just joining some writing sprints on a Discord server or going to a local writers group meeting, do something that involves other people.  

    You’re more than welcome to come join my server. We typically do sprints together on Saturday and Sunday evenings. https://discord.gg/4uPCWEFRJp  The Novlr website also has a community tab and a Discord Server.  They hold writing sprints through the week. (www.novlr.org). Scribophile is another great website if you’re looking for help and feedback too. (https://www.scribophile.com/

    I hope you find these points useful. If you have your own methods I would love to hear about it in the comments!

    Here are some useful links from the National Institute for Mental Health :

    Call or text 988 or chat online  to connect with a trained crisis counselor. The Lifeline provides 24-hour, confidential support to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. You can reach a specialized LGBTQI+ affirming counselor by texting “Q” to 988 or by calling 988 and pressing “3.”

    If you are a veteran, consider using the Veterans Crisis Line.

    Call 988, then press “1.” You can also text 838255 or chat online . The Veterans Crisis Line is a 24-hour, confidential resource that connects veterans with a trained responder. The service is available to all veterans and those who support them, even if they are not registered with the VA or enrolled in VA healthcare.

    Learn more: Veterans Crisis Line  (disponible en español )

    Disaster Distress Helpline. Call or text 1-800-985-5990. The Disaster Distress Helpline provides immediate crisis counseling for people experiencing emotional distress related to any natural or human-caused disaster. The 24-hour, confidential helpline offers interpretation services in more than 100 languages.

    The following professional organizations have directories or locators on their websites for finding mental health professionals:

    National advocacy organizations provide information on finding mental health professionals, and some have locators for finding a therapist on their websites. Examples include:

    
    			
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    The Blank Page

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    I’m sitting here staring at a blank white screen trying to write and all I want to do is crawl back in bed … at 10:30 am on a Sunday. It’s stormy outside so that’s a good excuse. Right? But it feels like I’ve had months worth of excuses not to write. Strike that … years. I haven’t actively written anything but some mediocre poetry in over a year.

    Okay, hold on. I’m being a little hard on myself. There’s been COVID, getting thrown into homeschooling, dealing with an abusive relationship, raising 3 kids (and multiple fur babies) on a limited budget, living in a much too small and much too old house, and dealing with having bipolar schizoaffective disorder.

    So many excuses, might be what crosses your mind. It certainly does mine. But if anything they are reasons why writing hasn’t been happening. Even when I did get free time, I’d spend it playing video games with friends or watching Netflix and YouTube. If I did open a doc to write in, I’d just stare at it mind as blank as the page and wonder where my creativity had gone.

    Well, I think I know where it went. It went into helping my very social 7-year-old cope with suddenly not being allowed to see their friends. It went into helping my 12 year old navigate their newfound gender identity. It went into planning inexpensive meals every week. It went into finding ways to keep 3 kids occupied for month after month of lock down. When I did have some to spare, I very gladly spent it on playing D&D with friends, something that has become a lifeline for me.

    I haven’t been writing, but I’ve been oh so creative in so many other ways. Ways that kept me sane and my kids happy.

    And I think that’s worth a few blank pages.

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    Clearing out the Cobwebs

    Well, it feels good to be getting back into the swing of things. I’ve let my mental health issues get the better of me for a while now and I’m digging my way back out of that.

    So, I don’t know how many of you know but my wonderful publisher Less Than Three Press officially closed their doors last month leaving me once again out in the indie wilderness. I’ll be honest, it hit me really, really hard. I found myself wondering if I could have done more, promoted my books more, paid more for advertising, just over all worked harder to have done something to keep them from closing.

    I was blaming myself for their closing. Something I had literally no control over. But a voice in my head kept saying it was my fault. Then today Jami Gold shared this thread (I highly recommend reading the full thread):

    Here’s what I’m thinking about today: What squatters are living in my brain, not paying rent, wrecking the place? Bc yesterday I bought a flowery pink shirt at Marshalls and immediately thought… BUT I NEED TO LOOK TOUGH. WEAR BLACK. NOT BE GIRLY. And that thought? Squatter. 1/— Delilah S. Dawson (@DelilahSDawson) August 10, 2019

    I found myself reading about someone who sounded exactly like myself even if my reasons for my ‘armor’ are different. My mother was the polar opposite, (begging me to be more girly, to do my hair, to wear dresses, to put on make-up), but the results were the same. Just like Dawson, I have ‘squatters’ in my head.

    What so many call their ‘demons’ or ‘baggage’ – squatters. Squatters with snide hateful voices that would do anything to make us doubt ourselves.

    Where I live, if you squat on a property for 7 years, you legally own it. Unfortunately a lot of us have unintentionally let our squatters come to ‘own’ real estate in our minds. We can’t evict them, so we must learn to live with them and minimize their impact on our lives.

    It doesn’t matter whose voice the squatters have, our parents, a teacher, some other authority figure, a false friend, the result is the same and we have to work hard to overcome the ingrained negativity.

    I am 41 and just now realizing where some of my squatters are from.

    But not every voice is a squatter.

    Learning how to listen critically to our own inner dialog is a lot like learning to lucid dream. Plenty of people will give you advice on how to do it but ultimately, its down to persistence and practice.

    So when I started hearing that voice in my head telling me I’d failed LT3 it took me a few days to realize it for what it was. It wasn’t me. I hadn’t failed anyone. I’d written and edited and worked my butt off. They didn’t fail either. They chose to close before it would have been a mess. They gracefully bowed out of an industry that has become more of a cesspool than a creative breeding ground. I respect them greatly for it.

    But this leaves me back at square one. A whole new square one from when I first started writing.

    Part of me loathes the idea of approaching publishers, but I also don’t know if I have the energy to take up self-publishing again either. No many agents will look at LGBT outside of contemporary romance (if you know of anyone looking for queer spec fic please point me in their direction!).

    But … I don’t want to stop writing. I’m not going to stop writing.

    No matter what the squatters have to say about it.

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    New Release with Author Kasia Bacon

    Today I am very excited not only to announce my new free serial Idiot Mage & Sassy Stallion but to introduce you to the wonderful Kasia Bacon! Kasia has a new story coming out Monday, June 11th, in her Order Series. If you haven’t had a chance to read The Mutt and The Highlander I highly recommend them. They are quick reads full of wonderful characters and sizzling romance.

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    by Kasia Bacon

    Twenty-One Arrow Salute, book # 2.5 in the fantasy Order Series, is now available on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited.

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    Verhan Tŭrryés of Black Mountain is a handful.

    Freshly enlisted in the Highland Regiment, he does all he can to steer clear of responsibility and commitment. Just not his cup of mead, that. Loose of tongue and even looser of morals, he rarely misses an opportunity to get into trouble—and into the other archers’ knickers, too.

    In a unit composed almost entirely of Dark Elves, Hernan Seinnés, with his green eyes and auburn hair, is an outsider. When Verhan, up the creek again, is blackmailed into helping Hernan, he never expects to fall for him. But during the long hours spent training Hernan for the Honour Guard, feelings strike the Highlander right in the heart—and with the force of an arrow.

    Unversed in relationships, Verhan finally plucks up enough courage to tell Hernan how he feels, only to drive the Asirhwӱnian away instead. If Verhan can swallow his pride, he might get one last chance to show Hernan what he means to him—and maybe this time he can hit the mark.

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    ABOUT THE AUTHOR

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    A linguist and an avid reader with a particular fondness for fantasy and paranormal genres, KASIA BACON lives in London with her husband. When not tearing her hair out over a translating project, she writes stories about the shenanigans of emotionally constipated assassins and sexy Elves. Otherwise, she can be found shaking her loins at a Zumba class, binging on anime or admiring throwing knives on Pinterest. She has a mild coffee and lemon tart addiction. A lover of MMA and Muay Thai, she also enjoys nature and the great outdoors. She dreams of becoming independently wealthy, leaving the city and moving into her wooden mini-manor—located in the heart of stunning forests resembling those of the Elven Country depicted in her tales.

    Find Kasia online:

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    I have loved these stories and I’m sure you will too!

    Idiot Mage & Sassy Stallion

     Available today for free!!! An all-new fantasy story set in the same universe as Forbidden Enchantment.

    Idiot MageTier’ghan Trolde ran from everything. Responsibilities, jealous would-be lovers, debt collectors but most of all from the knowledge he is a failure as a mage. Where his fellow graduates had secure positions at various holdings and were amassing their fortunes he was a wandering wretch without even a paladin to protect him. He’d started out well enough until word spread about the uncanny nature of his spell casting. The core of the spell would be true but there were always unexpected consequences. But a lone mage is most often a dead mage.

    Without a paladin to protect him, every person he meets could be the last.

    The last thing Quenoor needs is an idiot mage to look after. He’s got more than enough problems of his own. But when the charming red-head ends up on the wrong end of a knife it is up to Quenoor to save his sorry hide. Maybe having a mage around won’t be so bad, they might even figure out why the horse they stole can talk and seems to think it is actually a 2000-year-old knight of a long-gone empire.

    Going live June 10th on Wattpad!

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    Pride Month Diversity Commitment and a New Workshop!

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    June is here and for those of us in the States, that means Pride Month! It is a month to celebrate the MOGAI (Marginalized Orientations, Gender Alignments and Intersex) community and how far we’ve come and where we are headed. It is also a great month to look at our writing and see where we stand with our commitment to writing with diversity.

    With that in mind, I would like to encourage you to commit to writing more diverse characters. This is something I know sounds like more work, but I promise it’s no more work than what you’re already doing. I’ll be here to help you along the way, too. Not only will you have all the information available on my blog but you’re also welcome to ask me any questions you might have.

    So look at/think about your story and explore ways you might be able to show diversity. Make the commitment to writing diversely. Join the #WriMoDiversity commitment today to show your support. Tweet #WriMoDiversity and let me know how you plan to explore diversity in your story.

    I am making the commitment to #wrimodiversity this Pride Month!

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    Remember to be honest, accurate and respectful. For help check these links:

    writingbeyondtherainbow.com

    Going Over the Rainbow

    Writing With Color

    Want to Write with Diversity-but Not Sure How?

    Writing Diversity: How Can We Avoid Issues?

    One Step to Better Writing and More Diversity

    Below is a badge you can display on your blog or website or share on your social media to show your support. Don’t forget to share on the #WriMoDiversity or #DiversityDoneBetter tags on Twitter throughout June to let us know how you are doing.

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    How to Write with Diversity Workshop

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    In line with this, I am very happy to announce a 4-week workshop in July devoted to helping you write more inclusively. (The workshop focuses on sexual orientation and gender identity and will not address racial diversity as I am white and do not wish to stray from my lane).

    The workshop will run from July 1st-29th and will feature one live lecture per week on Mondays and access to a private forum to post your assignments (yes assignments! ^_^) and discuss topics with other class members.

    The topics are as follows:

    • Week One: Recognizing and Overcoming Internalized Bias
    • Week Two: When to Avoid Tropes and Stereotypes
    • Week Three: Developing Your Diverse Cast
    • Week Four: Developing Your Diverse Case Part 2: The Story

    The introductory cost of the course will be $50 which includes all four live lectures, worksheets, and access to the private forum.

    I look forward to seeing you there!

    How to Write with Diversity Workshop

    A four-week writing workshop devoted to helping us write with more diversity!

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    Are there any other topics you’d like to see me address in a workshop? Let me know in the comments.

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    Should Authors Use Trigger Warnings?

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    An interesting comment came up in one of my Facebook author groups. One of the authors commented and said they’d been contacted by an irate reader who was upset about the ending of their book. They then asked the group if they should include trigger warnings in the future. The response so far, with a few dissenters, has been a resounding no, with many commenting that they ‘don’t do trigger warnings.’

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    Now, I am not condoning author abuse. And the reader mentioned could have handled the matter without resorting to cursing at the author and instead used it as a teaching moment. No one should attack an author in reviews, social media or email. There are ways to air grievances or address problematic elements in books that don’t involve hate-filled speech.

    But what is a trigger warning and why should we as authors be concerned about them?

    First, it became very clear, very quickly that nearly all the authors in the thread have the wrong idea about why trigger warnings are needed.  So what is a trigger warning?

    A trigger warning is a statement at the beginning of a piece of media that alerts the viewer/reader to the sensitive material contained within that could be potentially distressing or harmful.

    It is much like the ratings that the MPAA, ESRB and MRS provide movies, video games, and comic books. It is to inform their consumers of content and allow them an informed decision. Trigger warnings can help a reader understand that a book is going to contain certain material and allow them to make an informed choice as to whether or not that material is for them.

    Trigger warnings are not frivolous, ‘indie,’ or for those seeking special treatment. They are legitimate warnings that can help someone avoid undue stress that can lead to major problems especially for those with mental health issues.

    Trigger warnings are potentially lifesaving for people who have dealt with traumas like sexual assault, hate crimes or violence. Eliminating these advisories and zones on campus suggests that someone should have to listen to someone who questions their humanity or experience.

    This kind of insensitive rhetoric also implies that mental health issues or traumatic pasts ― those that require a safe space or a trigger warning ― render a student weak. And that type of attitude silences those who may be struggling.

    Let’s play a game.

    You click on the links below.

    Here.

    Here.

    and Here.

    Don’t want to?

    Why?

    Because you don’t know what’s actually behind that word do you? You have no idea if I’m linking you to porn, a picture of kittens, or a virus.

    If you clicked on through you’re a braver person than I. Or maybe you have a software plug-in installed that tells you what the link is when you hover over it. Chrome does this automatically in a small box at the bottom of the page.

    Guess what. That’s your warning. You didn’t want to chance a nasty surprise on the other end of that link. Why? Because you want to keep your computer and yourself safe.

    That’s all trigger warnings are for. Keeping people safe. It’s not about ruining the plot or spoiling things for your reader. It is about allowing people to make informed decisions. It is not about limiting you or what you write. It is not about you. It is about your reader who suffers from PTSD or other trauma-induced anxiety, it is about your reader who is a rape or domestic violence survivor. It is about your reader who lives with a major mental illness like depression or anorexia.

    We would never do anything to deliberately hurt or cause our readers distress and yes we want them to enjoy the emotional highs and lows of our plot, but not at the expense of their mental health.

    Warning: The following contain strong abelist rhetoric.

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    Using trigger warnings is not censoring your writing. You are welcome to write the darkest, goriest, most unsettling and depressing thing ever. Just please say so. Leaving it to reviewers is unfair, insensitive, and lazy.

    It is not about being ‘offended’ or upset about a plot development. It is genuine acute distress brought on by reliving a past trauma that can manifest as an anxiety or panic attack, suicidal ideation, depression and so on. There is a major difference in having an emotional impact on your reader and triggering them into an episode.

    “Squirm,” and “discomfort,” for example, do not accurately capture the sensation of white heat, rapid heartbeat, the feeling that you are about to die or vivid flashbacks of assault.  Many administrators and professors feel that students need to grow a “thicker skin.”  A marginalizing “sticks and stones” understanding of what “counts” as “real” pain is evident not only in the statements of many professors, but in the large number of comments that quickly followed the Times piece, where readers categorized trigger warnings as “coddling” a “weak” “victim-mentality.”

    Additionally, the idea that any trigger warnings constitute censorship is not only incorrect but also definitively misleading. In most cases, no one is saying professors cannot teach texts or show videos. Nor do warnings imply some sort of apology for lessons to follow. Nor, in the interesting choice of words of one professor quoted in the Times piece, do trigger warnings mean that students “should not be forced to deal with something that makes them uncomfortable.” Warnings seek mainly to give students information they need in order to decide whether or not to take or stay in a class.

    What’s Really Important About ‘Trigger Warnings’ By Soraya Chemaly (https://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/trigger-warnings-college-new-york-times_b_5359276.html)

    When and How to Use Trigger Warnings

    So we’ve established that no one wants to censor you and you’re not spoiling anything for anyone so what next? Many authors seem very confused on when and how to actually use trigger warnings. Here are some questions to ask yourself:

    • Does my plot contain sensitive topics like abuse, domestic violence, racism, homophobia, suicide or rape?
    • Do my characters experience abuse or suffer graphic violence on the page?
    • Do any of my characters suffer from a mental illness?
    • Do any of my characters die in the course of the plot?
    • Do any of my characters struggle with substance abuse?
    • Are there any graphic scenes of violence or sex that are not expected in the genre or not covered by the blurb?

    If you answered yes to any of these you owe it to your reader to use a trigger warning. I am not saying give away your plot. There are very simple and easy ways to include trigger warnings without spoiling anything for anyone. You aren’t going to list every trigger you can think of, obviously. Just the ones that pertain to your story. It is as easy as just saying: major character death, suicide, rape.

    My book The Jeweled Dagger contains the following after the blurb:

    Trigger warnings for: verbal abuse, transphobia, character death, attempted rape, homophobia.

    Now, do you know what the book is about? Have I spoiled the plot for you?

    Not likely. The words, while providing all the information you need, do not spoil the plot for you. If you feel that I have taken away anything from your reading experience by listing these then I’m not sure why you bother with blurbs either.

    Those of us who occasionally use trigger warnings are not as naïve as we’re made out to be; we understand that there is no magical warning that will assuage all anxieties and protect students from all traumas, nor is there a boilerplate trigger warning or trigger warning policy that professors can be reasonably expected to follow formulaically. Rather, trigger warnings are, in practice, just one of a set of tools that professors use with varying degrees of formality to negotiate the give-and-take of classroom interactions. If you take away the media hysteria surrounding trigger warnings, you’re left with a mode of conversational priming that we all use: “You might want to sit down for this”; “I’m not sure how to say this, but…” It’s hardly anti-intellectual or emotionally damaging to anticipate that other people may react to traumatic material with negative emotions, particularly if they suffer from PTSD; it’s human to engage others with empathy. It’s also human to have emotional responses to life and literature, responses that may come before, but in no way preclude, a dispassionate analysis of a text or situation.

    The P.C. backlash and the trigger-warning backlash hold a common fallacy: They see pushback from the margins and mistake it for threats to the most institutionally powerful.

    —The Trigger Warning Myth by Aaron R. Hanlon (https://newrepublic.com/article/122543/trigger-warning-myth)

    (Emphasis mine)

    We as authors get a lot of grief from all sides and it is understandable that having to account for yet another thing on our to-do list seems counter-productive. It is perfectly understandable that we want our readers to be surprised by plot developments. But we lose nothing by listing a simple warning. We may even gain more readers.

     

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    A Small Gift: Daggers of Ariyon Excerpt

     

    If you’ve been following anything about the state of the writing industry these past few weeks, you’ll be well aware of the kerfuffle that has gone on. Many much more talented and eloquent writers than myself have weighed in on the #cockygate and KU issues. In fact, I’m not going to discuss anything to do with the writing industry today.

    I think we are all tired of the constant issues that have been cropping up in the industry. I am happy though, to see so many of us pulling together to support and help each other. That’s what we need. This isn’t a competition. There is room for us all.

    That being said, today I’m giving you all a small gift. The rough draft of the first chapter of The Daggers of Ariyon which is the sequel to The Jeweled Dagger. It picks up just a few weeks after the events at the end of JD. It does contain major spoilers for the end of JD, so I recommend reading JD first. You can grab a copy on Amazon, B&N, Smashwords, and most other major retailers.

    FYI: This is a rough draft and subject to change.

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    Book Review: A Higher Education: A Modern Retelling of Pride and Prejudice by Rosalie Stanton

    41ak7a7xgtl-_sy346_It is a truth universally acknowledged that first impressions are a bitch.

    In a sea of college freshmen, Elizabeth Bennet feels more like a den mother than a returning student. She’d rather be playing Exploding Kittens than dodge-the-gropers at a frat party, but no way was she letting her innocent, doe-eyed roommate go alone.

    Everything about Meryton College screams old money—something she and Jane definitely are not—but Elizabeth resolves to enjoy herself. That resolve is tested—and so is her temper—when she meets Will Darcy, a pompous blowhole with no sense of fun, and his relentlessly charming wingman, Charlie.

    Back at school after prolonged break, Will Darcy is far too old and weary for coeds. Yet even he can see why Charlie spontaneously decides the captivating Jane is “the one.” What throws Will is his own reaction to Jane’s roommate.

    Elizabeth’s moonlight skin and shining laugh hit him like a sucker punch. And he doesn’t like it. Elizabeth Bennet is dangerous, not only because she has a gift for making him make an ass of himself, but because she and her razor-sharp wit could too easily throw his life off course, and he can’t afford for that to happen again.

    Yet he also can’t seem to stay away.

    This book was so much fun. Every time I found myself having to put it down I couldn’t stop thinking about the characters and their sizzling interactions. (I’ll admit up front that I have never once read Jane Austen, sacrilege I know, but in my defense, I have tried).

    From the start, I fell in love with Elizabeth. Brilliant, funny and with a wicked tongue she’s everything I love to see in a heroine. Mr. Darcy didn’t disappoint either and their interactions were amazing. I loved it every time they verbally sparred with each other. I’m surprised my Kindle wasn’t sparking at times.

    Beyond the amazing characterizations, I was so happy that Stanton seamlessly included a wonderful mix of diversity into the story. Jane, Elizabeth’s best friend is African-American and eschews every stereotype but also doesn’t back away from handling racial issues within the story. Not only that, we are treated to LGBT characters who are not walking stereotypes but simply humans going about their lives.

    Elizabeth comes across as less a raging feminist than a person who understands what it means to have to be a woman in this day and age and the sometimes monumental challenges that come with the territory. She makes her mistakes, owns them, and isn’t afraid to learn and grow, something I love her for.

    It’s not often I enjoy a het romance this much (Jami Gold being the other exception), I might even have gotten teary-eyed at a couple of scenes. This is one romance I’ll be revisiting and likely soon.

     

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    Book Review: Rapunzel’s Surrender by Jacinta Laurenti

     

    She is queen and a widow, and an invading army is approaching the castle. The enemy covets the mountain of gold buried under the fortress, and many of the queen’s subjects have fled.

    As a bitter wind sweeps over the castle walls and whispers to the queen, a stranger arrives at the gate begging to be allowed in. She’s injured, but Rapunzel recognizes the woman’s face from her visions and her name from ancient tales.

    Irmela!

    Is she a spy? 
    Or an enchantress? 
    Or both?

    The queen has Irmela locked in the dungeon, but despite the danger, her majesty cannot resist the stunning woman, and she traipses into the damp freezing recesses of the castle to interrogate her.

    Irmela has a dark history but she and Rapunzel are connected as though a web of invisible thread draws them together.

    While burning oil, brimstone and hot sand rain down on the castle, the queen is in turmoil. She battles not only an enemy and her family’s disapproval but also her own pride. She’s torn between duty and love and tells herself that giving her heart to an immortal is foolhardy.

    But the ever-present wind, never willing to do Rapunzel’s bidding, might – after centuries of being its own master – offer her and Irmela its support.Rapunzel may not be in a tower, but she is a prisoner – of sorts. 

    tl;dr: Lackluster world building, thin character development along with some unfortunate word choices make Rapunzel’s Surrender feel rough around the edges.

    I personally felt a bit imprisoned by this short story. From the first chapter I had trouble connecting with Queen Rapunzel and bouncing from past to present to hazy visions brought on the wind never gave me a chance to get to know her. Unfortunately, this persisted throughout the story with point-of-view changes coming close to head hopping and leaving some scenes a muddled mess.

    Then there was some very unfortunate phrasing during the actual sex that immediately turned me off to the whole scene. A woman’s vaginal secretions being called ‘broth’ pulled me right out of the whole story and it took me a bit to return to it and be able to take it seriously.

    Throughout the story, Rapunzel worries if she’s worthy of being a queen. Her actions clearly show she’s not. Inviting a known sorceress and possible spy into her room just because the wind once whispered her name and gave her sexy visions seems irresponsible in the extreme to me. Then again that may just be me. Perhaps if I’d been given a chance to get to know her instead of being told about her childhood I might have understood her motivations better. As it is her motivations are conflicting and contradictory. All in all, it felt like reading fanfiction of a fandom I’m not familiar with.

    There is so much potential here and I feel bad for being harsh, but a good solid content edit would do wonders to clear up the confusion and put the focus where it should be.

    All that being said, Laurenti has a nice lyrical style that needs the polish a good experienced editor could give.

    You can get your copy here.