Be un-apologetically you. Know what sets you apart from the crowd. You aren't always going to win, and that's okay. Never lose your sense of humor. Don't forget your bag of guns tools. Always be ready to help your fellow writer. Maximum Effort ... or something like that.
After last week's post I had some people asking me to explain the concept of aromanticism further. If after reading the post and the included links you are still feeling a bit confused or unsure, don't worry there isn't anything wrong with you. Unfortunately, it is a subject much like gender; you only truly 'get… Continue reading Going Over the Rainbow: There is No Fast Lane
Nope the A in LGBTAIQ+ does not stand for ally. This week, I'm taking a look at the aromantic orientation.
This week has been chaotic at best and I apologize for the lateness of this article. As writers who write living beings at some point our characters will probably experience attraction to another being and desire a relationship. But what kind? Romantic relationships often seem to be the default in books and movies. Hero A must… Continue reading Going Over the Rainbow: Like a Moth to a Flame
All joking aside, accountability is something that professionals of any discipline face. Even us writers. Yes, you read that right. You, my dear writer, are accountable to your reader. Well yes, you say, I should give them the best story I can write. Yes you should, but it goes beyond that too. If you've… Continue reading Going Over the Rainbow: The Trope Trap
I recently ran across a post on Tumblr where the OP was rather distraught. They'd been told that using the word asexual to describe their character's orientation was historically inaccurate for their setting. This brought up the issue of explicitly stating a character's orientation within the prose and when and how this should be done.… Continue reading Going Over the Rainbow: Show and Tell
On January 8, 2016 the American Dialect Society voted singular they as the word of the year. The use of singular they builds on centuries of usage, appearing in the work of writers such as Chaucer, Shakespeare, and Jane Austen. In 2015, singular they was embraced by the Washington Post style guide. Bill Walsh, copy editor… Continue reading Going Over the Rainbow: Pronouns and Cons
I want to preface this by saying; I bear no ill will, animosity or hard feelings toward anyone. I am simply sad and disappointed. I had hoped we might learn from each other. Yet, I guess my hopes were naïve. Writing can be so lonesome. You sit at your desk, hour after hour, day… Continue reading An Open Letter to My Local Writing Group
Disclaimer: This post frankly discusses some aspects of sex and sexuality that some might find triggering including sexual kinks, fetishes and paraphilias. Please do not read further if you find any of these subjects triggering. If you've been around romance writing for long you've undoubtedly ran across a number of characters with kinks and… Continue reading Going Over the Rainbow: Getting the Kinks Out
Most of us go through life never thinking much about our gender or how we express it. We might feel it is something we were born with, something absolute and immutable. We might think there are only two genders and that we are one or the other. 'But aren't there only two genders?' I hear… Continue reading Going Over the Rainbow: The Gender Divide